“She thought she could……….and she did.”  Anonymous

“He thought he could…………and he did.”

I send this thought to all of those who had the courage and strength to believe enough in themselves to do what ever it takes to survive and move forward and beyond their painful memories to make a better life for themselves.

Keep that faith and hope and love for the person who needs it the most. YOU!


Linda 🙂

Still in IOP

I get so frustrated when I have to stay in the IOP to long. I get scared that I will  be asked difficult questions that I am not prepared to talk about. I have to admit that it has given me the break that I needed from EMDR. I have about three more weeks to go here. It’s really hard to support others in the group when they don’t really acknowledge what you were saying to them. I know we are all there for different reasons. However, there are many things that we all have in common. There are great therapist there.

They know just how two iidraw you out and answer those difficult question that we seem to hide at all cost. The therapist’s can pull them out of us and into the room where others can relate. That is the magic of groups.

There was this  young man who is terrified by the things he sees in the videos on YouTube. No matter what we try to say to him it does not relieve his fear. He is one of those patients who keep going over the same thing in each group. It steals time from the patients who need to talk the most. Especially those who think about suicide.

I have been doing good for the most part. I have closed the door on what I was working on in therapy. When I go back to my therapist in three weeks we are going to slow down and just have talk therapy for a while. I miss her. I can’t hardly wait to see her again. She is so warm and soft-spoken.. She is gentle with me when she sees the need. The last session I had before IOP she put a teddy bear on my lap. She said look at this bear as if it is your inner child. I have issues with my inner child so it is hard to embrace the idea of my wounded inner child. Sometimes she talks directly with the inner child.

Phases of EMDR


I’ve listed the phases to EMDR for those who might be interested in giving it a try. Believe me when I say that I highly recommend it. Although it might not be for every one.

EMDR therapy consists of eight phases and each phase has its precise intentions.[32][33]

Phase I History and Treatment Planning

The therapist conducts an initial evaluation of the client’s history and develops a general plan for treatment. This includes the problems which are the primary complaint of the client and a history of distressing memories which will become the targets for reprocessing.

Phase II Preparation

The therapist helps the client develop ways to cope with distressing emotions so that they are able to calm down and help themselves in between therapy sessions. Commonly this is done with guided imagery or other relaxation techniques.

Phase III Assessment

The therapist asks the client to visualize an image that represents the disturbing event. Along with it, the client describes a thought or negative cognition (NC) associated with the image. The client is asked to develop a positive cognition (PC) to be associated with the same image that is desired in place of the negative one. The client is asked how strongly he or she believes the PCs to be true using a 1–7 scale (completely false to completely true) called the Validity of Cognition (VOC) scale. The client is also asked to identify what emotions he or she feels. The client is then asked to rate his or her level of distress on a scale from 0–10, with 0 being no distress and 10 being the most distress they can imagine. This is the same as a Subjective Units of Distress scale (SUD) that is commonly used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Finally the client is asked to identify where in the body he or she is sensing the feelings.

Phase IV Desensitization

During the reprocessing phases of EMDR therapy, the client focuses on the disturbing memory in multiple brief sets of about 15–30 seconds. Simultaneously, the client focuses on the dual attention stimulus, which consists of focusing on the trauma while the clinician initiates lateral eye movement or another stimulus such as a pulsing light held in each hand, or tapping on the knees.[34] Following each set, the client is asked what associative information was elicited during the procedure. This new material usually becomes the focus of the next set or another aspect of the memory may be guided by the clinician. This process of personal association is repeated many times during the session.[34] This process continues until the client no longer feels as distressed when thinking of the target memory.

Phase V Installation

The therapist asks the client to focus on the event along with the PC developed in phase III. The client is asked to hold in mind the memory with the positive thought as the therapist continues with the bilateral stimulation. When the client feels he or she is certain the PC is fully believed and that belief is as strong as possible, the installation phase is complete.

Phase VI Body Scan

At this phase the goal of the therapist is to identify any uncomfortable sensations that could be lingering in the body when thinking about the target memory and the PC. While thinking about the event and the positive belief the client is asked to scan over his or her body entirely, searching for tension, tightness or other unusual physical sensation. Any negative sensations are targeted and then diminished, using the same bilateral stimulation technique from phases IV and V. The PCs should be incorporated emotionally as well as intellectually. Phase VI is complete when the client is able to think and speak about the event along with the PC without feeling any physical or emotional discomfort.

Phase VII Closure

Not all traumatic events will be resolved completely within one session. If the client is significantly distressed the therapist will guide the client through relaxation techniques that are designed to bring about emotional stability and tranquility. The client will also be asked to use these same techniques for experiences that might arise between sessions such as strong emotions, unwanted imagery, and negative thoughts. The client may be encouraged to keep a brief log of these experiences, allowing for easy recall and processing during the next session.

Phase VIII Reevaluation

With every new session, the therapist will reevaluate the work done in the prior session. The therapist will also assess how well the client managed on his or her own in between visits. At this point, the therapist will decide whether it is best to continue working on previous targets or continue to newer ones.

 This information is taken from an EMDR website.